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She’s a queen who needs a king!

Love is a very beautiful yet a very weird emotion. When a woman is in love, no matter how mature, sensible or in control of her life she is, you will be able to detect a few differences or changes in her personality that boldly screams; ‘I think I am in love!’

She might act like a child or the wisest one; sometimes she may be all loud and clear about it and at other times, she will be exceptionally silent about it. It can be a total paradox at times too she might say one thing while she means the other. Her actions, when she is in love, might not always coincide with her intentions. And all this confusion and not-so-straightforward behavior are all due to the fact she has hopelessly fallen in love with you. To harbor such strong emotions as those of love often make a woman lose track of her common ground, making her behave rather unexpectedly and strangely.


But when a woman is in love, there are a few million things she wants and thinks of.


When a woman loves, she loves for real.

When a woman loves, she loves like a baby.

When a woman loves, she wants to be treated like a baby.

When a woman loves, she wants to be treated like a queen as much as she treats you like a king.

When a woman loves, she wants to be your priority as much as you're her priority.

When a woman loves, she wants to be treated with the utmost respect. She never wants you to cast her down in public. Don't tramp on her and she will take care of your needs like her life is dependent on them.

When a woman loves, she wants to be able to take pictures with you and safely caption you 'my boo'.

When a woman loves, your past sins are no concern of hers.

When a woman loves, she becomes extremely and dangerously possessive & protective of what is hers; you.

When a woman loves, she never wants to fight through your family's probe of how much of a wife material she is alone.

When a woman loves, she fights for you and with you.

When a woman loves, she is ready to sacrifice her relationship with her family for her relationship with you.


When a woman loves, she is prepared to dump the career she's invested so much in for you.

When a woman loves, every other man is a big scary monster.

When a woman loves, every other woman in your life that isn't family is Jezebel.

When a woman loves, she will gladly endure your flaws and mark it off as one of those 'thorny' parts of a relationship.

When a woman loves, nothing in the world makes sense anymore.

…She will be your protector and your shield even if it kills her.


When a woman is hurt and heartbroken, you become the big ugly monster. 

When a woman is aching from the emotional pain you've caused her, she will push you down the deep black fiery part of her heart.

Don't always attempt to stay friends with an ex you've hurt. She will hurt you more.


But when a woman truly loves, she loves for real.

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‘I never want to speak to you again or see your lying face around here!’

That has to be the most disrespectful and unsettling way to call off your long term or short term relationship. You may think this is the best way to end an abusive or toxic relationship but it's never okay.

 

For a second think about your state of mind and how petty you'll come off. Think about the tons of energy you'll have to burn out to deliver such spiteful speech to someone that may or may not care about you anymore.

 

Though not all relationships end because of abuse or mental instability, it is always advisable to break up respectably.

 

Growing apart is one of the most common reasons couples call quits on their years of kisses and hugs. You begin to find out that your interests, ideas, values, and feelings aren't as well-matched as you had thought. You begin to ponder over what had earlier attracted you to him/her. Sometimes you fight against these thoughts and try to convince yourself that it's just the downside of a relationship and you'd still get over it but you don't.

 

Developing feelings for someone else or changing your mind about your partner is another major reason couples break up.

 

These days, break-up is almost a trend. With the much hurt and heartbreak, you’ll have to go through, you wonder why people even bother.

 

While some people rather avoid the unpleasant task of starting a break-up conversation, others have a 'just get it over with' attitude.

But neither of these approaches are the best one. Avoiding just prolongs the situation (and may end up hurting the other person more). And if you rush into a difficult conversation without thinking it through, you may say things you regret.

Saying you things you may regret is always inevitable.

 

Break-up Do's and Don'ts

Every situation is different. There's no one-size-fits-all approach to breaking up. But there are some general "do's and don'ts" you can keep in mind as you start thinking about having that break-up conversation.

 

DO:

Think over what you want and why you want it. Take time to consider your feelings and the reasons for your decision. Be true to yourself. Even if the other person might be hurt by your decision, it's OK to do what's right for you. You just need to do it in a sensitive way.

 

Think about what you'll say and how the other person might react. Will your BF or GF be surprised? Sad? Mad? Hurt? Or even relieved? Thinking about the other person's point of view and feelings can help you be sensitive. It also helps you prepare. Do you think the person you're breaking up with might cry? Lose his or her temper? How will you deal with that kind of reaction?

 

Have good intentions. Let the other person know he or she matters to you. Think about the qualities you want to show toward the other person — like honesty, kindness, sensitivity, respect, and caring.

 

Be honest — but not brutal. Tell the other person the things that attracted you in the first place, and what you like about him or her. Then say why you want to move on. "Honesty" doesn't mean "harsh." Don't pick apart the other person's qualities as a way to explain what's not working. Think of ways to be kind and gentle while still being honest.

 

Say it in person. You've shared a lot with each other. Respect that (and show your good qualities) by breaking up in person. If you live far away, try to video chat or at least make a phone call. Breaking up through texting or Facebook may seem easy. But think about how you'd feel if your BF or GF did that to you — and what your friends would say about that person's character!

If it helps, confide in someone you trust. It can help to talk through your feelings with a trusted friend. But be sure the person you confide in can keep it private until you have your actual break-up conversation with your BF or GF. Make sure your BF/GF hears it from you first — not from someone else. That's one reason why parents, older sisters or brothers, and other adults can be great to talk to. They're not going to blab or let it slip out accidentally. 

 

DON'T:

Don't avoid the other person or the conversation you need to have. Dragging things out makes it harder in the long run — for you and your BF or GF. Plus, when people put things off, information can leak out anyway. You never want the person you're breaking up with to hear it from someone else before hearing it from you.

 

Don't rush into a difficult conversation without thinking it through. You may say things you regret.

 

Don't disrespect. Speak about your ex (or soon-to-be-ex) with respect. Be careful not to gossip or badmouth him or her. Think about how you'd feel. You'd want your ex to say only positive things about you after you're no longer together. Plus, you never know — your ex could turn into a friend or you might even rekindle a romance someday.

 

Note that these do's and don'ts aren't limited to just break-ups. You can also follow the same guideline to politely turn down a dating request.

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14 Questions To Discuss With Your S.O- significant other.

Maybe you are dating or engaged and have had a bunch of other discussions but somehow found it convenient to avoid any of these ones; settle down right now and get down to business.

  

Close Couples Can Answer These 14  Questions Instantly—Can You?

Get your partner and begin ASAP---


FAMILY

* Do you want children?

* What do you see as your familial obligation?

* Which holidays will you spend with each of your respective families?

* How will you deal with family issues?


MONEY

* What are your fundamental beliefs and values about money?

* Do you want to keep your finances separate or joint?

* What kind of lifestyle do you want to have/ what kind of lifestyle can you settle for?


RELIGION

* Do you want to raise your children with religion or spirituality?

* Do having different faith and belief bother you?


INTIMACY

* Are you happy with your current level of physical and emotional intimacy?

* Do you feel emotionally supported?


CONFLICT RESOLUTION?

* How do you best handle/resolve conflicts?

* How will you talk about problems that may arise in the future?

* Do you mind a third party in resolving conflicts?

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Ps; 'I' introduces the topic and conversation. 'You' follows it up.

I -  Some guys though, they love to cook and can cook better than many girls, but will never cook as long a female friend or girlfriend is around. Some will come to the kitchen but instead of helping or being sweet, they'd make you feel like your mama didn't train you well.


You-  As in eh, so true. I remember my ex always bragged about cooking better than I do and even his brothers and friends say he is a great cook but in three years of our relationship, I never tasted his food, not even indomie.

Mtcheew. Abeg any man who can avoid his hobby just to put a woman in her place, is that one a man?


I-  Traditionalists. Sick we still have them in this century. Worse is when you hear some overgrown boys saying that delusional phrase "issa man's world"


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25 Ways To Know You've Found The One ♥


You know that moment when everyone says you're glowing.

When you feel your heart skip a beat when he/she calls you.

When you blush uncontrollably when someone says his/her name.


You just know that amazing feeling you get when you're with him/her, how do you know for sure he/she is the ONE? 


Here are 25 tips to easily access your relationship and decide once and for all if he/she is the ONE.


1. If you guys can loudly fart in the presence of each other. Trust me, if you guys are over this stage then there's absolutely nothing to hide from each other anymore. 


2. If she can take off her wig in the presence of your friends or siblings. Ladies, what's up? 


3. If he buys you stuffs you needed but didn't ask for.


4. If she likes to select what you'll wear for important meetings.


5. If you guys dance together at least 1 out every 5 times you are together.


6. If you guys have ever laughed so hard that the other person's face looked so ugly.


7. If you guys have funny meaningless nicknames for each other.


8. If he has ever been to your hair salon.


9. If she has told you about all her exes.


10. If he has told you about his longtime crush.


11. If you've prayed together or been to church together.


12. If you've both watched each other poop inside the toilet.


13.  If SHE leaves the big piece of meat for you and if HE ever gives you the only meat in his food.



14. If she has ever visited your barber shop.


15. If you have ever answered a call on his/her behalf.


16. If you watch his/her favorite TV shows even when he/she is not around.


17. If you can complete each other's sentences.


18. When you guys have your own jokes no one else understands.


19. If you've been together for more than four days without sex. How doable is this? Probably when she is on her period. But guys seriously, this is very important. She needs to know it's not all about the cookie.



20. If you have the phone number of at least one of his/her relative.


21. If his/her friends and siblings like and comment on your pictures.


22. If he or she always shares important online posts to you even when you are fighting.


23. If you guys can have long discussions about each other and not other people.


24. If you guys can successfully order each other's food.


25. If you can boldly tag or mention him/her on a social media post without fear of side boo finding out. 

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Breakups can be as messy as your dirty neighbor’s kitchen; some other breakups are usually a mutual parting. Either ways, they all tend to hurt. They always leave a sour sting, whether you guys broke bottles or you guys lovingly agreed to part ways. Maybe your breakup was a messed up marshmallow or a matured decision to find love somewhere else, there are certain things you shouldn’t do after a breakup. You can only truly move on if you observe these don’ts.


PS: Don’t you ever give up on finding love again simply because one or three attempts ended up in a pit-hole. Don’t start treating everyone like your ex, not everyone is your ex. Anyways you probably didn’t come in here to get relationship advice.


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